Saturday, March 22, 2008

It is so hard to sit and do nothin'

Well, I had surgery last Friday, as planned, and it went really well. I was really nervous, but God helped me a lot, as I knew he would. Thanks to those of you that were praying. I had a hysterectomy due to problems I have had for years. It was a big decision, being that it would mean major surgery; me, being out of commission for a while and the finality of knowing that there would be no more kids, and "that", part of my life would be over. But, you know, I thought and prayed about it, and I feel really blessed to have 4 precious children that are healthy and normal, and my cup fills blessedly full and I am ready to feel better and have a better quality of life and move on to the next phase of my life. I'm still "somewhat" young and I am looking so forward to enjoying LIFE more. Enjoying my kids more, and whatever God brings to my life. So I'm not really sad. Some women are, and maybe it will come later, but as of right now, I and my husband feel good about our decision. Now I just need yall to pray for patience for me that I can make myself rest like I need to, to heal up properly. I wake up feeling halfway decent, so I'm like, "I can straighten up the house a little, move a few kitchen chairs around so I can sweep, slide the exercise bike across the living room to move it out of the way, bend over to pick up a few (hundred)ha-kidding, barbie shoes, clothes, etc. and then BHAM!!!! why did I do that? What was I thinking? I paid dearly for that little cleaning frenzy. See, you have to understand, my mother called and said that she was coming over in a few minutes (this was yesterday) to clean and straighten up for us some, well, any of you that know my mom, knows the reputation she has built for herself through the years, she is very, very clean (like, eat off the floors, clean), so I went into panic mode and decided that I needed to get up from my resting chair, and straighten up before she gets here, so she wouldn't think the house was as messy as it really was. Well, guess what, the house looked pretty good after my 15 minute fly-lady frenzy, but I dearly paid for it the rest of the day. I had severe cramping in my stomach and back for the rest of the day and a horrible headache. I finally decided that I will not be that stupid again and will not worry that my house doesn't stay as clean as my moms. I know, I could use the, "but she doesn't have 4 kids," cop-out, but that is exactly what it would be, "a cop-out." Because, when her 3 kids were all at home she kept a spotless house. O-Kay yall, my house is clean, but my mother I'm not. Sorry. How spotless I keep my house is not my number 1 goal in life. I'm not at all discounting my mother for her house keeping skills though. Don't get me wrong. Anyway, my mom did some of the basic things,(laundry, vacuuming) and then some of the not so basic things, like cleaning Brooklyn and Annie's room-including the closet(LOL) I told my husband after looking at the results that man, when my mama does something, she does it right!! The room and closet looked great!!!! Ron was kind of mystified because she did 1 room like thoroughly and only 1 load of laundry. I tried to explain to him, but being that he is a man, and just don't get it, my mom understood how a woman thinks, a woman, or most women, think, ugghhh! this room is a disaster and the closet is a wreck and I would love to tear in to it and clean it up and she knew it was bothering me to look at it, so she decided to take that load and temptation off my mind. May God bless her!!!!! I appreciated it sooo much. See, Ron had knee-surgery 4 weeks ago, so he can't do just anything either. He is doing good, but he can't bend but only so far and he is limited on things that he can do. He will be off work for a 6 week period.

We haven't hardly had to cook at all this week, which has been a huge help. The saints and family have brought food every day for use since last Sunday. What a blessing!!!!! We have been eating good, let me tell ya! Sis. Haney, bless her heart, brought a feast. She is such a blessing. Different people have kept the kids. So we have felt so loved and blessed this week by so many people. I can't express how thankful I am to each of them. Also the visits and people calling and people just praying has been wonderful. Thank you all!!!!!!

4 comments:

AlabamaBrands said...

I've been there- after a c section and someone comes to clean the house... it's pretty rough. You do have a REALLY good excuse right now; I know it's hard, but keep getting that rest!! :)
Praying for a good recovery for you!

Kelly said...

Here's to neat-freak Mom's! My mother is like that too, and it's mostly a help and sometimes it's a little bit of a driving force....LOL!

But, now Lor, don't be doing anything to hurt yourself, OK? :)

~*This Mama*~ said...

Hey Lori. I called you this morning, before seeing this. Wanted you to know that I will be praying for you and I think of you often. =) Let me know if I can do anything...even though I'm so far away.

We built a HEART together. hahah I STILL remember that!

Denna said...

I can't believe you. You know better than that girl. REST. That is the only way you are going to start feeling better. Take it easy while you can. It will not last forever.
Don't ever get like your mom. Bless her heart. I love her dearly, but you know a house needs to be lived in.:)
Love ya
Denna